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Let’s talk body positivity

First off it is really important that we all understand that the term body positivity isn’t exclusive to one body type. The common misconception is that it’s for the “fat” people but it is inclusive of all bodies, full figured, curvy, thin, flat chested, even disabled. Everybody deserves to feel good in their skin and to love and enjoy their body which leads to enjoying life, because most of us know how much self hatred and a body complex can limit us in our daily lives.

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My body and my self esteem issues limited me for years. I avoided any costume or bikini situation which meant I didn’t go to the beach and have fun, I wouldn’t swim unless it was with a select few people who knew my body and who I trusted and I absolutely hated summer because I would be in a pair of jeans (leg complex) and layers of tops to try and hide my chubby tummy while the perspiration poured off me.

And I know that there are many who can relate to that which is why body positivity is so important and why I will fight for every BODY. No matter your weight, height, race, body imperfections you deserve to live your best life, end of story!

The body positivity movement also has a bad rep because many see it as an excuse for fat people to stay fat and then disguise it as body positivity. I understand this, but it is not about that. It’s about women who have been subjected to bullying based on their bodies and appearances for far too long and we are actually fed up.

The reason I stand behind the movement is because as I mentioned I struggled with my weight which affected so many areas of my life for so long that I eventually lost who I was because I based all my worth on that number on the scale. I dieted,I gave up, then I tried again and each time I learnt a new lesson which has finally brought me to where I am today, which is comfortable in my skin and not totally hating my body every second of every day. A big lesson I learnt is that weight fluctuates but that shouldn’t be the reason that my happiness and self esteem should fluctuate too.

It’s so easy to measure our self worth against what we see in the media but forget that no matter how hard we try we won’t be able to achieve that level of “perfection” because it is fabricated perfection. No matter how much weight we lose there will still be someone who thinks our body isn’t good enough because let’s be honest people can be assholes so why are we trying to impress people when there are no guarantees? The only guarantee in life is death and the only person guaranteed to always be there for you, is you. So the love has to start from within.

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Body positivity is something I am extremely passionate about and I hope to really find my voice amongst all the other warriors who inspire me daily.

We are not asking you to support bad habits or bad eating but rather just support women and their right to feel confident. The community is so supportive and I have never felt as inspired, supported and excited. I feel like I have found my place on social media and possibly the world.

My numbers (the scale number, my dress size, my amount of stretchmarks) affect absolutely nobody and if they do affect you for some reason then, bye Felicia. It also doesn’t change who I am as a person or my heart.

Our relationship with our bodies is also completely personal so as much I am all about accepting and loving yourself as you are, I will not shame or bash anyone for having weight, health or fitness goals because this IS NOT WHAT the movement is about. I understand that diet culture has left a bitter taste in so many mouths but I don’t agree that anyone should be shamed for trying to better themselves or for trying to look a certain way. The whole point is for women to love themselves and their bodies and if you are working towards getting there, I support you (as long it’s not detrimental to your health).

I would love to hear your thoughts and opinions.

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10 thoughts on “Let’s talk body positivity

  1. I love this 🙂 I have never been quite right for society, was waaaay too thin until around 21 then way too fat after 24, 22 and 23 should have been great but i was miserable there too. My weight makes me extremely self-conscious and now quite good enough, I am so glad that you are opening this much needed dialogue, looking forward to more posts

    1. Thank you so much 🙂 I appreciate your comment and you sharing your story with me.
      I have never felt right either. Even at 65 kgs I thought I was fat. I have just gone through it all which is why I have just decided to live and stop worrying about it because if I don’t love myself now, when will I ever? Because I have been at both ends and it didn’t make a difference to how I felt about myself inside.

  2. Love love love! I so related to this.
    As you know, I have struggled with this movement and it was mostly because there are elements within the movement that seem to be about embracing being fat and unhealthy and slamming those of us who, while being body positive, are still trying to be healthy and the best versions of ourselves we could be.

    1. I am so glad you enjoyed it Sharon. As I mentioned on Twitter I thought about you a lot while writing it because I can’t believe that something that is meant to be so inclusive can make some feel shamed. You just do your thing and there will be a ton of us behind you all the way xx

  3. Aaah, Kerry, LOVED LOVED LOVED this post! I am in absolute awe of the huge role you play in the body positivity community and the incredibly positive influence and love you so generously share on a daily basis. You are an amazing person and thank you for letting us be part of your journey. You are the best! xxx

  4. This is so relatable! Thanks so much for sharing! When I was 15 I had hit puberty and had a C-cup bra but as I got older, they shrunk to a B. I was happy but everyone, to this day, asked/still asks me what happened. At first, it made me very self-conscious, like really is that all they noticed about me? But now I’ve learned to laugh it off, I’m happy with my B’s and that’s what matters. I’ve learned that if I love my body then no one can change how I feel 🙂

  5. This is such a great post thank you so much for sharing it. I agree with so many of the points that you make when it comes to women, our bodies, and how we are made to feel about them as a result of external influence. While I do feel that the body positivity movement is absolutely grounded in necessity, there is a side to it that feels less inclusive to me. In fact last year I recorded a video for my blog which I’ve yet to publish, but your post here has inspired me to get it out there. I believe that all of us who are flying the flag for woman’s confidence need to make our voices heard. Thank you so much for sharing such brave vulnerability.

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