Just be kind, dammit
As I write this I have so much going on in my mind that it feels like I can’t even think straight. The last two weeks have been so tough on me mentally. At the end of each day I have felt like I just couldn’t carry on. I have been overwhelmed, sick with worry and stress and overloaded with tasks that have seemed impossible.
The point of this is not to seek sympathy and it is not to tell you that my life is worse than yours, because I don’t know, I don’t know if my struggles are bigger or smaller than yours, I don’t know what you are going through. But it doesn’t matter what I know because I should always be kind.
I have shared parts of what is going on but if you missed that and just went to have a quick look at my social media profiles you wouldn’t know what is going on behind the scenes (although I try and fill you in and keep it real).
The same goes for if I browse your profiles, I won’t know EXACTLY what is going on in your life, what you are celebrating or what struggles you have going on at the moment. And it is so easy to look at someone’s social media accounts and think that their life is perfect when in fact they could be fighting their hardest battles.
At any given time someone could be at their worst, someone could be facing a struggle that seems never ending and too big to overcome. They could be worried sick or they could be stressed to the max.
But we forget this, we forget that life can be an unpredictable bitch and that nobody is safe and there are no “get out of jail free cards”.
Everyone is fighting their own battles on the daily so kindness, assistance and love is really what we should be sharing and giving more of rather than judgement and assumptions and, and, and.
Whether it is on social media, in real life, or both, just be a good person. Be the person you would want in your own life. And whether you know what is going on with someone or not, always just be kind for in case they really need it, although we actually all need and deserve kindness all the time.
It is also okay to ask for help, sometimes it helps to put the bad stuff out there and tell others because they could be in the same boat as you, they may have some good advice or you might just feel less alone which is helpful in its own way.
We don’t have to pretend like we have perfect lives and we can choose what to share or not to share. But regardless of how much you know about someone’s circumstances, regardless of whether you think they are perfectly okay, you just need to be kind.
This is just your reminder to be a good oke.